Graduations and New Chapters

Last night was my baby girl, um I mean my 14 year old daughter’s Jr. High Graduation ceremony.  She and about 172 other students sat in folding chairs while the parents sat on the gym bleachers.  Pomp & Circumstances played, officials and students spoke, awards were given out, it followed the traditional format.

And throughout the entire ceremony the thought that kept running through my head was, “Where did the time go?”

As the President of the School Board spoke and said that our children were moving from childhood into young adulthood I thought, wait…that can’t be right?  She’s still a little girl!

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And then I look at her, and I realize she is growing into a beautiful young woman.  She is no longer that newborn we brought home from the hospital that I truly had NO idea what to do with.  She’s no longer that tiny infant (okay not tiny she was 9 lbs at birth) that would cry for no reason, and often all night long causing me to cry right along with her.

She’s funny, and serious.  She’s glamorous, and low maintenance.  She’s mature, and immature.  She’s intelligent, and ditzy.  She’s graceful, and klutzy.  She’s talented and yet still sometimes insecure.  She is all female, and sometimes still a tomboy.  She’s exactly like me, and nothing like me.  She’s exactly like her Daddy, and nothing like him.  She’s a study in contradiction, and as solid as a rock.

I somehow made it through graduation without shedding a tear but that was probably just because sitting in the bleachers truly, truly sucks and all I could think about was wrapping this up so we could go eat and get off the bleachers!  Right now, writing this post from the comfort of my sofa, I am thinking about many other things and admit to shedding more than a few tears.  I guess I’m as contradictory as she is.  Maybe that’s where she gets it?

 

Are we raising a generation of “mean girls”?

Are you raising a mean girl?

Image from the Lindsay Lohan movie, Mean Girls

The last few weeks, or months, my daughter (a teenager) has been dealing with a kind of ‘mean girl’ situation.  Some girls that she has been friends with since Kindergarten have decided they’re not going to speak to her, just for the sport of it.  I personally think that it is all over a boy they are all mutually friends with but I don’t have any proof of that, it’s just mother’s intuition.

That’s not really the point of this post though.  The point of this post is that I’ve noticed as I’ve discussed this topic with various mom friends and Facebook friends there seems to be a consensus among everyone that ‘girls are vicious’.  And they kind of throw up their hands as if that’s the end of it.  Girls are mean, end of story.

But someone is raising these girls, and it stands to reason that at least one or two of the parents I have talked to about the problem have a child that has acted this way at some point in their life.  I mean, with the ‘girls are mean’ thinking the situation has to be pretty common so it stands to reason.

It feels like we as a society are throwing up our hands as if there’s nothing to be done about it.  Girls are mean.  End of story.

I even had a teacher friend comment on a recent post I made to Facebook saying that she would rather have a class full of boys than a class full of girls, and she’s the mother of a girl!  I found that unspeakably sad and depressing.

Why don’t we start raising our daughters to be good people, instead of mean girls?  Stop rewarding their snarky or bitchy behavior that starts young.  Stop posting videos of our little girls telling us to “take care of yourself” on YouTube to get a million hits, stop telling our three year olds to be sassy, stop making them think they are better than anyone else!  Reward good manners, polite behavior, respect for everyone whether they are similar or different from them.  Remember the Golden Rule?

Our children, daughters included, will imitate the behavior they see in us.  That’s the real concern in the whole ‘mean girls’ trend that I see.  Mean girls have grown up to become mean women and mean mothers and now there’s a whole new generation of mean girls running loose.

Grilled Corn on the Cob

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At our house we grill almost everything, especially in the summer!  Grilled corn on the cob is one of our household favorites and since we live in corn country (i.e. Illinois!) it’s plentiful and inexpensive!

We have two methods for grilling the corn, both turn out delicious so feel free to try them both and see which one you prefer.

First, if you find the corn still in the full husk simply soak the corn for about 20 minutes in lightly salted water and then place it on the grill for about 20-30 minutes (depending on the temp of your grill).  When the corn is finished the husk & silks come off together!  Easy, peasy!

Second, if you can’t find the corn still in the husk, or you find the packages where it has only part of the husk remaining (what’s the point of that, btw?) simply remove all the husk and silks & rinse the corn slightly.  Cut a piece of aluminum foil long enough to wrap the corn completely and seal it.

Place the corn in the center with two pats of butter, lightly salt it, and wrap it up tightly.  You can add other seasonings now, too if you like.  Garlic powder, black pepper, cayenne, anything you like!  The corn will absorb more of the flavor while it’s cooking and you’ll be rewarded with delicious corn on the cob!

Place the corn on the grill for about 20 minutes (depending on the temperature of your grill).

I promise you this method is MUCH yummier than the oil boiling on the stove top method, plus if you’re outside enjoying the summer weather who wants to stand inside and watch a pot boil?  Not me!

My husband, the grill master, likes to unwrap the corn the last minute or two and let it get grill marks/char marks.  Frankly, I just want to eat it and I don’t think this adds a thing to the flavor it just makes it look manly & cool.  So, if your hubby wants to…let him, but if he doesn’t think of it just grab your piece and chow down! :)

Enjoy!

 

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Happy SITS Day to me!!

Today is my day to be the featured SITS Girls blogger! I’ve been anxiously awaiting today since I first discovered SITS Girls back in December!

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If you don’t know what SITS is, it’s a massive and amazing network of over 40,000 women bloggers! It’s the place to connect, make friends, learn, explore, and so much more. If you’re a blogging woman you need to head straight over and look around, you will not regret it I promise!

So, now to introduce myself and tell you a little bit about me. That’s always the hardest part, isn’t it? I’m a wife, and a mother to two amazing kiddos! I love reading, writing, photography, social media and so much more. I blog about everything from amazing recipes, to funny things my kids do & say, book reviews, and social media tips & tricks. I have worked from home for almost 10 years as an Online Community & Social Media Manager. I love what I do and I love sharing my experience with others.

Thanks for stopping by to check out my little corner of the Internet! While you’re here you might like to check out some of these posts, too.

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There’s 104 Days of Summer Vacation…how are you going to fill them?

Believe it or not, I did not draw this animation, all rights belong to Disney.

Believe it or not, I did not draw this animation, all rights belong to Disney.

Whether you’re a work at home mom, like I am, or a stay at home mom, your kids are about to be home for summer break and it’s only a matter of time before you hear the words every mother dreads.

“Mom! I’m bored!”

After working remotely for almost 10 years and entertaining my kids from the age of newborn-14 years I’ve learned a few tips & tricks that might help you out.   If you work from home, or are a stay at home mom and have other ideas please leave them in the comments so we can all learn (and save our sanity!).

  1. Trade child-care days with another at-home mother.  If you’ve been at home for any time at all you’ve undoubtedly met other moms who stay home.  We all have days we need a little peace and quiet, whether it’s to get caught up on laundry, or to be on a conference call.  Work it out with another mom, or even a group of moms, to take their kids on days you’re not as busy and they’ll take yours on days they’re not so busy.  You’ll all benefit, and the kids will get a play-date!
  2. Check out local day-camps.  I know what you’re thinking, camps are expensive and the whole reason you stay home is to avoid paying that expense.  I hear you, I understand!  You don’t have to do something that lasts the whole summer, we’ve had great success and managed expenses by looking for week-long, half-day camps that our kids enjoy.  The local YMCA or sports complex is a great place to start.  My son did a fishing camp, and an indoor soccer camp last summer while my daughter did a babysitting bootcamp that earned her Red Cross certification for babysitting (she’s made a lot more cash babysitting since she got that!).  Scheduling something that is a couple of days a week maybe once a month over the summer will break up the routine, give your kiddos something to do, and get you some peace & quiet at the same time.  Those same moms you traded child care with might even want to car pool!
  3. Go a little retro.  When boredom does strike, think back to the things you used to love doing when you were your children’s ages and bring out some childhood memories!  Sidewalk chalk, bubbles, playing in the sprinkler, make crafts…anything goes!  Heck, I’ve even been known to convince them that washing my car is a lot like playing in the water.  Can you say win, win!  Heck yeah!
  4. Chores!  That’s right, I said the word our kids hate but trust me you’ll thank me later!  Create a list of chores that each kid is responsible for daily & weekly.  They need to be age appropriate and things they can handle without your assistance.  That way whenever they do whine they are bored you can counter with, “Well, have you… emptied the trash, dusted, folded laundry, fed the dog…” and it will remind them to entertain themselves, plus you get a chore done.  Again I say win, win!
  5. Journals  You’re a blogger, right?  How did you first start writing down your thoughts?  A spiral notebook you kept under your mattress?  Yeah, me too.  Encourage your kids to start journaling!  If they are like my kids they are used to doing some kind of journal project in school each morning to get their brains warmed up.  You can come up with themes for the day, or just encourage them to write down their thoughts or ideas.
  6. Hit up the local library.  Check and see if your local library offers free wi-fi, pack up the kiddos and take them to story time, or to explore the new children’s section.  They can pick out books, listen to a story, or play with puzzles, etc while you get some work done online!
  7. Hi, do you have free wi-fi.  You’d be surprised the places that are offering free wi-fi in your area that you don’t even know about.  A neighboring town has added free wi-fi to all of their community parks!  The local skating rink offers wi-fi connectivity.  McDonald’s with play lands have wi-fi, and I’m sure there are more I’m not thinking of.  Pack everyone up, go to the local hot spot and let them play while you finish work.  A change of scenery will do wonders to alleviate your stress, and their boredom!

If you don’t want your kids building rocket ships in the back yard, or any of the other ridiculous stuff that Phineas & Ferb usually are up to, and you don’t want your version of Candace constantly tattling on them…do yourself a favor and have a plan in place before the bell rings at school for the final time this year!

I didn't draw this image either, it belongs to Disney...they have lots of amazing artists there!

I didn’t draw this image either, it belongs to Disney…they have lots of amazing artists there!

When is a PB&J more than just a PB&J?

There’s an old saying about how you should not ask a child a question if you don’t want a truthful answer, and I was reminded of that lesson this morning with my 9 year old son when we had the following conversation:

Nicholas: Mom, will you make me a PB&J?
Me: Why do I need to make it for you?
Nicholas: Because I just want to be lazy.
Me: Here’s a knife, make your own sandwich.

Later when I was still chuckling about this conversation I realized that this may not have been the best lesson in “honesty is the best policy” from his point of view. After all, if he had answered a little less honestly I might have made the sandwich for him!
Peanut Butter & Jelly