What do Moms REALLY want for Mother’s Day

When I had the idea, the inspiration if you will, to write this post at first I was going to write it all filled with what I would really love to receive for Mother’s Day.  Then I had another idea!  I would ask my mom friends what they want and see if my wishes are in the minority or the majority!

Guess what?  My wishes are dead on in the majority!

What we really want, what we truly, deeply, wish our family would give us for this one day that is set aside to show us how much we are loved and appreciated is…time for just ourselves!  We want to relax, we want to spend time with the people we love (that means you) and we want someone else to do all the things we normally do.  After all, that’s the only way you can show us that you really appreciate all the hard work that we do every single day, by doing it yourself.

What Mom Really Wants for Mother's Day

My friend Josey, the mother of two little (adorable) boys said what we were all thinking, she wished for “Time alone”.  It’s not that we are ungrateful, it’s not that we don’t love our children and our husbands, it’s just that sometimes we just want to sit down, put our feet up, and not have anyone say our name or please for the love of gawd, touch us!

My beautiful friend Lisa, the mother of three children ranging from grown to high school said it like this: “I don’t care what it is, nothing expensive. I just want something that I know took some thought and not something they just rush out to buy. Something that reflects the real me.”  How amazing would THAT be?

Tracy wished for a clean house, Kyra wished for a weekend away with her spouse, Amy’s wish struck close to home for me, she wished to not have to spend the day dividing time between her own mother and her mother-in-law.  Sign me up for that one, too!

Terrie is a genius, she wishes someone other than herself would clean out the d@mn car!

Brandi has all the bases covered with her wish:” I would like a day where I didn’t have to lift a finger … for anything. Someone else can cook breakfast, lunch and dinner; feed the dogs, tidy up, dishes etc. Basically I would like a day of role reversal where I got to enjoy a “day off”, like everyone in my house does EVERY weekend!”

Yeah, that sounds good…

I think my sister’s wish is basically wishing for the day off from being mom, because this sounds really close to the job description to me! “I want a day to not be in charge, not be the grown up, the referee or the caregiver. I want a freakin day off basically. Is that too much to ask? And if I’m really having it my way it would be in a beach with a drink in my hand.

My single mom friends wish to be recognized for the strain they bear playing the role of both parents.  My friends with young kids wished for a weekend away with girlfriends to be just a woman, just a friend, not a mom or a wife.

I wish that I could give each of my mom friends what they really wish for Mother’s Day.  We deserve it.  This mom thing, this is no joke.  This is 24/7/365 full out marathon that most grown men would run weeping away from.  It’s at once the best job, and the most unrewarding job in the world.  Just when you think you’re done, you’re throwing in the towel and can’t handle it one of those little monsters, beautiful children will do something that makes your heart grow three times its size.  Then we’re back in, we’re all in.  We love them, we adore them, we take this job so very seriously.  We’re raising people here.  These people are everything!  If we do a great job, we’re amazing moms.  If we stumble, we convince ourselves that we’re the worst moms ever.

And this is all before 9 am!

As you’re shopping for Mom between now and Mother’s Day, keep in mind all the amazing things she has done for you over the years.  Think of the times she made you a sandwich, think of the times she let you cry on her shoulder, think of the times she turned into a big old mama bear when someone else made you cry.  She doesn’t want a gift with a big bow and fancy gift wrap.  She just wants to know that you see her, and all she does for you and that it’s helped to make you the person you are today.

If you’re a mom like me, I wish you Happy Mother’s Day and I hope your family treats you like Queen for a Day just as you deserve!

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22 Comments on What do Moms REALLY want for Mother’s Day

  1. Debbie-Dabble
    April 30, 2014 at 12:05 PM (3 months ago)

    I don’t feel that my family should set aside one day to treat me special. Fortunately, I have 2 grown sons who appreciate and realize all that their Mom ,who has worked 35 years of full time as an RN, has done for them every day!. As the major bread winner, I gave them a certain life style but they both were required to work at 15 years old, as soon as they could. I gave them an understanding of what working hard for a living was and to appreciate the fact that they could earn their own money and have jobs. I worked full time but NEVER missed any thing that they had going on in school or where ever else because i worked night shift and would just NOT sleep to attend their events. And they remember that and know what I gave up for them. My Hubby and I have always been a Team with my hubby doing the dishes ( no dishwasher), the laundry and many other things around the house and equally taking care of the boys when they were small and I needed to sleep before work.
    I can honestly say that my family DOES appreciate all I did and still do for them and my wish for Mother’s Day is NOT for them to spend money on me but to spend the day with me!
    I am working Mother’s Day but they will be here with me when I am home and that is the BEST Mother’s Day present!! We are ordering in and eating at home so I do not have to spend my time with any body else but them!

    Debbie

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    • Angela
      April 30, 2014 at 6:15 PM (3 months ago)

      Happy Mother’s Day!

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  2. vitatrain4life
    April 30, 2014 at 1:13 PM (3 months ago)

    ‘Aint it the truth? Happy Moms day to you too! I hope you get all the alone time you can handle for one day…

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    • Angela
      April 30, 2014 at 6:09 PM (3 months ago)

      Happy Mother’s Day to you as well!

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  3. Katie @ Pick Any Two
    April 30, 2014 at 1:51 PM (3 months ago)

    What this makes apparent is that moms are by and large overworked and under appreciated (duh!). It’s time for that to change, even if it’s just for a day!

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    • Angela
      April 30, 2014 at 6:10 PM (3 months ago)

      That is exactly right!

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    • Angela
      April 30, 2014 at 6:14 PM (3 months ago)

      A mani/pedi alone would be ideal!

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  4. Stephanie
    April 30, 2014 at 6:44 PM (3 months ago)

    Time alone. Or time with them but without anyone asking me to do anything. No making anything, no refereeing fights, no friends over. Just us – I guess we’d have to all be sleeping for any of that to happen.

    I like naps, though. I could handle that.

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    • Angela
      April 30, 2014 at 9:35 PM (3 months ago)

      Time with them without anyone asking for anything…I can’t even really get a picture of what that would look like in my mind, can you??

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  5. Christine Carter
    April 30, 2014 at 9:54 PM (3 months ago)

    I would DREAM of taking the weekend ‘off’ and going to some cabin to write alone…. My initial idea was to go somewhere ALONE with WITH my hubs… but, eh. I think I am changing my mind. I would LOVE that! don’t get me wrong… ;)

    I just want time to rest, pray, reflect, plan- write. without interruptions… for two days.

    BLISS.

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    • Angela
      May 8, 2014 at 9:05 AM (3 months ago)

      Oh my gosh how heavenly does that sound? Uninterrupted, guilt free, writing time??? SIGN ME UP

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  6. katbiggie
    May 1, 2014 at 5:52 AM (3 months ago)

    I too would love some alone time… we’ll see if that happens! Happy Mother’s Day!

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    • Angela
      May 8, 2014 at 9:04 AM (3 months ago)

      Here’s hoping it happens!

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  7. Janine Huldie
    May 1, 2014 at 6:31 AM (3 months ago)

    Said a mouthful here and would love alone time said as I read blogs early this morning and my kids have already invaded my bed! Seriously Happy Mother’s Day :)

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    • Angela
      May 8, 2014 at 9:04 AM (3 months ago)

      Happy Mother’s Day!

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  8. Rabia Lieber
    May 1, 2014 at 1:56 PM (3 months ago)

    I would love a day to feel appreciated! Hubby thinks he needs to try and come up with elaborate gift ideas, and while those are nice, that’s not what would make me truly happy!

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    • Angela
      May 8, 2014 at 9:03 AM (3 months ago)

      My hubby thinks he doesn’t have to come up with a gift for me at all, since I’m not his mom. :) Your hubby wins! LOL

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  9. Jenny Nelson
    May 2, 2014 at 8:58 PM (3 months ago)

    How about an afternoon nap and someone else doing the housework? That’s my dream! :)

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    • Jenny Nelson
      May 2, 2014 at 9:00 PM (3 months ago)

      Wait, I have to be more specific. An uninterrupted afternoon nap, without anyone waking me up to tattle on their sibling, ask me to help locate something that is lost, or (this one is the worst) to ask me if I’m asleep.

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      • Angela
        May 4, 2014 at 7:38 PM (3 months ago)

        Oh my gosh my kids do that too, “Mom, were you sleeping?” WHAT?!?

  10. Marcia @ Menopausal Mother
    May 9, 2014 at 9:44 PM (3 months ago)

    My wish would be to go away for a week to a writers retreat, in a cabin in the woods. I’d still want my internet, OF COURSE but it would be cool not to have so many daily interruptions. Imagine the work we could get done if we all had a week like this for a gift???

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